Jumping in the LAKE!!!!! Dating in 2011

As women we go through stages in our lives, we are faced with many new, interesting experiences....how we face each endeavor says a lot about our character......Dating after a failed relationship or marriage is one of those experiences that can either make or break you. Many women hold off on dating for months even years after a failed relationship.....there is a lot of emotional healing that has to take place, it's also a time for her to find herself, to become ok with being alone. There's is nothing worse than a women jumping from one relationship to the next in the fear of being alone. Potential partners can sense this weakness and will use it to their advantage, therefore perpetuating the cycle of another failed relationship. Children may also play a factor in her reluctance to jump back into the lake, if you are a GOOD parent , you know that you cannot introduce your children to everyone. So what's a gal to do when you do decide to jump back into the lake.... tread lightly, very lightly. If you have been off the dating scene for years, this new dating scene is........umm interesting to say the least! The lake is shark infested and you can be eaten alive if you can't swim.... you have to be able to decipher bullshit at an all time high these days to be successful in this dating game. That's what it is when you sit back and pay attention......a GAME...but why are ADULTS still playing middle school games? Many adults are still stuck with the childhood mentality that less is more....the art of COURTING has been lost...damn near dead, most people just wanna fuck not build lasting relationships! No dates, no morning phone calls to say high, flowers etc. The most you get nowadays is a BBM, text, a dinner maybe, a late night hook up.....then it's over! The borage of tits and ass is at an astronomical high via face book, twitter and many other social networking sites! Hoes are out here winning, making it harder for real women to be taken seriously! Second, most people in the lake are NOT single they just play single on TV, somebody always has somebody they just won't tell you. Then one in every 10 dates is a winner (maybe) You meet someone you like but you won’t tell them, or you won't call for days even though they are on your mind.....Why is it so hard for us to express how we really feel...."If I'm what you want just say it.....don't lie!" Your Hands......to express how you truly feel about someone takes extreme courage, no one wants to feel rejected or as if their feelings are not reciprocated. You are now in a grey area relationship because neither party wants to admit their true feelings....grow up people!!!!! If you decide to swim in the lake, you can get caught in a whirlwind of failed dates, empty sex and grey area relationships.... don't let that deter you from jumping in the lake, there is love out there and you can't find it unless you open yourself up to it.....just be sure that when you find it, you’re are not too jaded to recognize it....too often people don't wanna get played or seem week so they put on airs, however all the fronting and frauding can actually make you miss out on a good thing.