Hot Nights, Cool Pussy!

As is lay here, my body is yearning for a cool breeze.....the fan blows over my hot skin, a semi relief!  Looking at the clock twenty minutes have passed since we spoke....he said he would be here in 10.....  Where the hell is he?......My phone vibrates signaling his arrival,  I hear the door shut behind him, my body starts to heave in anticipation for his touch. (It's been awhile) The light creeps in as he opens the door to my bed room....instantly he finds my body under the glow of the light.....he has something in his hands,  I'm not sure what tho....I try to get up and see, but he pushes me back down on the bed and tells me to relax.  He ask permission to blind fold me....of course,, I agree...a little suspense can only help things. At this point we are both naked, but he has all the control.....my body is covered in sweat....he tells me to chill, then I feel it.....he begins to wipe me down with a freezing cold towel.....at first my body quivers at the touch, but the cold is a much needed sensation.....my nipples become erect as he gently circles them with the towel, and blows on each on softly. Careful not to miss a spot, he makes his way from my nipples, to my stomach, next my things, before he makes his way to my legs, he parts my pussy lips and  blows ever so gently and I squeal with anticipation.....he is teasing me! After he wipes me down, the breeze from the fan has every hair on my body at attention, then suddenly I feel droplets of freezing liquid falling over my breast...my back arches in response. Slowly he licks the liquid off of my breast, gently kissing my neck making sure not to miss a spot...I beg his to watch but her refuses my request. He takes my hand and guides it to my pussy and whispers in my ear  "Play with it, baby!" Obliging him, I spread my legs and began to gently massage my clit, my pussy is ridiculously wet (as usual) I find his mouth so he can taste me! He hungrily sucks all my juices from my fingers....then kisses me passionately! I can taste me, mixed with a fruity wine...(so that's what he's pouring on me) he continues to pour the wine over the rest of my body as he licks EACH and EVERY inch! By this time, I wanna rip the blind fold off, but he won't let me! I beg him to enter me....but he won't! He flips me over on my back, I feel the wine poured on the small of my back, and he tells me to spread my legs....I feel his body on mine, his hand reaches between my thighs, playing with my warm wet pussy, and then I feel something extremely cold placed inside my pussy....ICE.....IN my pussy.....it instantly starts to melts, I feel his tongue trying to catch ALL the wetness....as he is licking, sucking every inch of my pussy. I want more,  I throw my pussy back at his face....in response, he grabs my ass as he puts his face deep into my wetness.... I'm fucking his face with  every ounce of energy I have. SHIIITTTTTTT he dines on my pussy until all the ice is melted. I can feel my pussy juices running down my legs.  The heat in the room has intensified from our bodies......he tells me he going to get a towel to wipe off..........in my sexual bliss, I must have passed out. When I awoke I was still blindfolded and he was gone!

Are You Scared of LOVE?

LOVE......I need love, love, I need your love
Love, love, I’ll be here waiting for love...........Yours...
I’ll be here waiting for ........LOVE!!!! As I sat down to write today, Anticipation by Marsha Abrosius  was the first song to play on my iTunes....The feeling and emotion expressed in this 8 bar interlude are beyond powerful. We are all waiting for LOVE.....Anticipating Love.....Love by definition is a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person. Love is what we all crave in some way shape or form. Whether it be from a mother, father, sister, friend, lover etc...we all want and need love! The feeling of  romantic LOVE however, is like no other....it makes us glow, makes our heart smile, make us insane at times!  We get our first taste of this euphoria in our preteen years....also know as PUPPY LOVE!!! From that first hit we are hooked, but somewhere along our life's path our attitude towards LOVE changes. Many will say, "FUCK LOVE, I don't need it or want it!!!" LIES, LIES, LIES......everyone wants to be loved! However, many of us have been so hurt by past relationships, our hearts are so guarded we become our own worst enemy. We have lost the ability to trust, the ability to give people a chance to show us love! Often times we mask this hurt by being promiscuous, womanizers, or becoming serial daters... all in an effort to keep people away from our hearts! Putting up the facade that we don't want anyone special in our lives, when ultimately many crave it, they just don't know how to accept love! We often feel unworthy of love, or we don't love ourselves enough,  therefor making it impossible to love or receive love from someone else!  This feeling of unworthiness is what keeps many people in loveLESS, even abusive relationships,  they feel they don't deserve better!
Marsha said it best in LOSE MYSELF

Couldn't tell me I was in love when I needed it
when, all I ever wanted was love.
should a told me I was worth receiving it
but all I ever wanted was love
there's something awkward about the selflessness it
takes to
give love and the good that it makes you!
true love can never really forsake you
but it took a little while just for me to see!

Loving someone whole heartedly is a scary thing, especially when u see reports of infidelity and betrayal all around you! Once we realize we are worthy of love, we will accept nothing less and weeding out the frauds becomes as easy as breathing!  I urge you to love in spite of....even if your heart is broken, even after you've been lied to or betrayed. Those heartaches are lessons, and you will be stronger for the ONE person who won't hurt you! When you find love embrace it, don't run from it, as you may end up regretting it! Love in spite of.......

Intimacy Vs Intercourse......

Intimacy-a close, familiar, and usually affectionate or loving personal relationship with another person or group. In today's overly sexual, "hit it and quit it" world we live in....it seems that intimacy has been lost. How many of you can actually say you are in a INTIMATE relationship with someone as opposed to just FUCKING them. Or can you remember the last time you actually WAITED to get to know someone before you had sex with them. Many of us, myself included go from meeting someone to sleeping with them in no time flat. Never taking the time to actually form an intimate relationship with them. SEX first, intimacy later.....and we wonder why we go through cycles failed relationships, or get caught in grey area situations that led to nowhere. All the while adding another notch to our bed post. If you look back on your sexual escapades how many of those notches were a waste of your fuckin time. We often confuse sex with intimacy, for years I always equated sex with being intimate.....that was my way of showing someone I REALLY liked them! Needless to say my relationship track record is nothing to be proud of. I have always been blindsided by the dick and let it cloud my judgement! I'm sure I'm not alone.....so what's the alternative? Recently, I saw "Jumping the Broom", the main characters dated for six months and had not had sex...."WHAT" *in my Home Alone Voice* in today's society this is damn near unheard of! YOU ARE DATING AND NOT FUCKING.... HOW DARE YOU? Even if you told people this they probably would not believe you. Now six months may be a little extreme for some, but holding off for just a while can be beneficial in the long run! When we are young we were always told, "If they really like you they will wait to have sex with you!" and we tell our children the same thing.....yet as adults we no longer take heed to our own advice! Ironic isn't it. We think that we are missing something when we take sex out of the equation.  However after having experienced an intimate relationship that does not include intercourse, I can say that INTIMACY is soooooooo much more than intercourse and way more fulfilling. It affords you the opportunity to actually get to know the person you are dealing with. What they like and dislike, what makes them tick. Sometimes we sleep with people and don't even know their real names or that they have a wife and kids! Holding off on sex also allows you to make clear decisions, without thinking about how good your were fucked the night before! Good sex does cloud our judgement at times. Sex also brings in a flood of emotions many are not ready to handle. So what about those sexual urges?  Having a sexual relationship does not always have to include the act of sex. There are other ways to be INTIMATE and SEXUAL with your partner that will allow you to fulfill those sexual urges....one must be creative! This will also bring the two of you closer.  Don't get me wrong sometimes you ONLY just wanna fuck, and hey I'm all for it, but if you're looking to actually build a relationship with someone and you actually LIKE them, try building intimacy before intercourse. SMOOCHES!!!!

In The FLESH......NUDES by MIKE MOGUL!!

I came across the photography of Mike Mogul last year after my cousin suggested I make him a bbm contact.....since then I have been IN LOVE with his work. Mike's photography has many ranges, from fashion, nudes, scenery etc. His nudes are pure ART, I have chosen a few of my faves to share with you all. ENJOY.....if your would like to see more visit.... http://mikemogul.onsugar.com

IN THE FLESH......NUDES by MIKE MOGUL!!

LoLa' s Treats.....And the WINNER IS SHAUNTAE JONES

Shauntae has been following the blog and supporting me  from the beginning, so I am happy that she won the CUSTOM shoes from SHOEicide by Veni!!!!!!......Funny thing is Shauntae didn't even know that there was a contest.....she posted two anonymous comments and I was thinking to myself....this is number 124 and 125....but I didn't know who they where from.....then she hit me on facebook saying "Post my comments" I said, "Those last two were yours?" "YUP!!!" Lucky for her otherwise someone else wool have won....PLEASE LEAVE YOUR NAMES, FAKE OR SOMETHING.....Shauntae has won a custom shoe design valued at $300.00. I will keep you posted on her finished FAB SHOE.....but in the mean time check out http;//www.shoeicidebyveni.com! Stay tuned for the next giveaway....tell a friend to tell a friend. SMOOCHES

Ask LOLA.....3 is ALWAYS better than 2....Threesomes

Dick Delicious(chuckles at name) writes......
Can you write your thoughts on threesomes, then I will request on more subjects!

Dear Dick Delicious,
I myself have NEVER participated in a threesome, however it is on my bucket list of things to do before I leave this great earth, which many believe is Saturday.....*thinks of possible participants* hehehe.....I know many people who have had threesomes and they RAVE about the experience. From a women's point of view, I think threesomes are better had with someone your are not in love with, many people are not able to handle seeing someone they LOVE being intimate and pleasured by someone else. If you recall the episode of The Game... when Melanie, chickened out during their threesome....she just couldn't handle it! You also run the risk of someone liking it a little too much and having one on one contact AFTER the threesome....we don't  need that foolishness. If you have the threesome with someone you are just fucking your mind is free to ENJOY the experience, your are not preoccupied with thoughts of "Does he like her better than me?" "Is her dick suck better than mine?" You are not emotionally invested, so you could care less.... you wouldn't even care if they fucked ALONE. Another important factor in the threesome is selecting the right person. You want someone who will be discrete, sexualy attracted to you and your partner and uninhibited!!! This should be a memorable experience, not something your regret!

What do you guys thinks.....have you had threesomes??? Share your experiences, help Dick Delicious out.....(chuckles at name)

Do Better Blues.....Stay or Leave

"If I could do better..then you could better too. But I don't want better, Cause it only gets better wit you!" I'm sure many of us can relate to this lyric from Jhene Aiko's Do Better Blues.... We feel like the person we are currently with is the end all be all. This type of thinking leads many of us to stay in relationships that are well past their expiration dates. We don't want to let go of time invested, pain endured etc....holding on to the idea that it will get better, however, it never does! Why do we stay, when we clearly know in our hearts the relationship is unrepairable? Many of us stay out of FEAR: FEAR of being ALONE, no one WANTS to spend holidays, birthdays etc alone, so we hold on to the one we know will be there. We need someone to be there on those lonely rainy nights! FEAR of the unknown.... new relationships are scary and they make us vulnerable. We would rather deal with the devil we known than the one's we don't! Many us us don't want to take the chance of being hurt AGAIN. FEAR of being financially unstable, when you own homes, cars, etc it makes if even harder for some to leave a relationship. Many will endure mental, physical, emotional and verbal abuse for financial stability! FEAR of hurting someone we once loved. More often than not the demise of the relationship falls on one party, rarely is it ever mutual! One may fall out of love or be at a turning point in life. We may feel obligated to our partner....how can we hurt them when they've done no wrong? When we stay in relationships that are clearly OVER.... You become IRKED by everything that your partner does....even a "Good Morning Baby" can make your skin crawl....this my lead to infidelity and resentment. "My gut told me STAY or LEAVE"......The struggle many of us go through when we are forced to face the reality that our happily ever after was all an illusion is a hard pill to swallow for most. It can take many months, even years to leave failed relationships, prolonging the inevitable....but does anyone really benefit from this? Knowing what I know now, it's always better to LEAVE than to STAY in a DEAD relationship. You risk losing your identity, becoming stressed, even hating your partner! This can be avoided if you are upfront and honest from the first inkling that the relationship may be over. People may not like the truth but they will always respect it more than a lie. If there are children involved ending a dead relationship is IMPERATIVE, many people make the mistake of "staying together for the children" this logic is far from beneficial for the kids. They have a front row seat to your dysfunctional relationship, children do what they see, not what they are told! What they witness will surely affect their future relationships. If your don do if for yourself, leave for the children!  "In a relationship we want 3 things....EYES that won't CRY, LIPS that won't LIE, LOVE THAT WON'T DIE"....if the relationship your are in is not giving you these three things.....YOU CAN DO BETTER!!!! Photo By Mike Mogul!!

Ask LOLA......HELP....the SEX was THEE WORST!!!!!

Hi all, we have a SEX ADDICT who needs our help......
F. Writes.......
Aight, so this guy has been "diggin" me for a good 8 years. His swag is off the meter. He smells sooo good. His hair is always cut & clean. When he walks I'm sure bishes get wet just by lookin at old buddy. So after all the chosen I finally go out with this pauper & to no avail we had a one night stand. It was theeeee WORST!!! Too much teeth action on the twaat for one. And for two he was a biter. Not a sexy biter but a "bitch get over here" biter. He really needs some sex tips.

He calls like when are we gonna do it again? In my head I'm like never. I shouldve kept things how they were. I mean the sex was a natural disaster. He's well into his 30's & still fuqqin like a rabbit. Where is your stroke? Oh my bad he left it at home on the charger. I think he was banging me so hard & fast lol, I could feel my brain floating.

How do I gently tell this man he needs some lessons in the bedroom?
Thanks

Dear F.,
First, sorry for your BAD experience .....my cooch hurts for you!!!! haaaaa If you are not interested in pursuing it any further....chalk it up as a disaster!!! However, if you are interested in this fella and want to pursue the relationship you can go about it one of many ways......with men you have to be careful not to bruise their egos and handle them with kid gloves at times......you have to make him feel like you are so into him, you want him to please you in all the RIGHT ways!!!! When the two of you are together one night , focus on the technicalities.....ask him what HE likes.... FIRST.....this will boost his ego and makes him believe it's all about HIM!.....have him explain in DETAIL what turns him on, how HE likes his dick to be sucked, what positions he likes, what kind of kisses turn him on! This line of questioning opens up the floor for you to share YOUR likes, hold off on the dislikes or he'll know our referring to him!;) If you like you pussy licked slow, no teeth....tell him this....if you like LOOOOOONNG DEEP STROKES tell him.... When you make it back to the bedroom.....do everything HE likes, asking him "Is this how you like it?"!!!! Now it's YOUR turn.....guide his head to your pussy and tell him HOW to please you....if he starts with the teeth....whisper in his ear the right way as you caress his back (kid gloves) Coach him and reward him when he does it correctly! We can't expect people to KNOW what we like, we have to tell them. If he has gone thru life doing shit the WRONG way.....you have to be the one to STOP it! You have to have at least three of these "COACHING" sessions....before full improvement can be expected! If he is STILL horrible..... drop his ass.... No country for fellas who can't stroke or eat pussy!!!!!
Smooches LOLA