Intimacy Vs Intercourse......

Intimacy-a close, familiar, and usually affectionate or loving personal relationship with another person or group. In today's overly sexual, "hit it and quit it" world we live in....it seems that intimacy has been lost. How many of you can actually say you are in a INTIMATE relationship with someone as opposed to just FUCKING them. Or can you remember the last time you actually WAITED to get to know someone before you had sex with them. Many of us, myself included go from meeting someone to sleeping with them in no time flat. Never taking the time to actually form an intimate relationship with them. SEX first, intimacy later.....and we wonder why we go through cycles failed relationships, or get caught in grey area situations that led to nowhere. All the while adding another notch to our bed post. If you look back on your sexual escapades how many of those notches were a waste of your fuckin time. We often confuse sex with intimacy, for years I always equated sex with being intimate.....that was my way of showing someone I REALLY liked them! Needless to say my relationship track record is nothing to be proud of. I have always been blindsided by the dick and let it cloud my judgement! I'm sure I'm not alone.....so what's the alternative? Recently, I saw "Jumping the Broom", the main characters dated for six months and had not had sex...."WHAT" *in my Home Alone Voice* in today's society this is damn near unheard of! YOU ARE DATING AND NOT FUCKING.... HOW DARE YOU? Even if you told people this they probably would not believe you. Now six months may be a little extreme for some, but holding off for just a while can be beneficial in the long run! When we are young we were always told, "If they really like you they will wait to have sex with you!" and we tell our children the same thing.....yet as adults we no longer take heed to our own advice! Ironic isn't it. We think that we are missing something when we take sex out of the equation.  However after having experienced an intimate relationship that does not include intercourse, I can say that INTIMACY is soooooooo much more than intercourse and way more fulfilling. It affords you the opportunity to actually get to know the person you are dealing with. What they like and dislike, what makes them tick. Sometimes we sleep with people and don't even know their real names or that they have a wife and kids! Holding off on sex also allows you to make clear decisions, without thinking about how good your were fucked the night before! Good sex does cloud our judgement at times. Sex also brings in a flood of emotions many are not ready to handle. So what about those sexual urges?  Having a sexual relationship does not always have to include the act of sex. There are other ways to be INTIMATE and SEXUAL with your partner that will allow you to fulfill those sexual urges....one must be creative! This will also bring the two of you closer.  Don't get me wrong sometimes you ONLY just wanna fuck, and hey I'm all for it, but if you're looking to actually build a relationship with someone and you actually LIKE them, try building intimacy before intercourse. SMOOCHES!!!!